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Day: January 27, 2019

2019 Health

Treating dating like a takeout order is leaving us hungry for more

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January 27, 2019 at 08:30AM by CWC When I was 24, in a classic 24-year-old move, I started hooking up with the Tinder Emperor of my borough. His cyber seduction skills checked every box in your list of dating app clichés: We’re talking shirtless selfies, topless pic requests—things I would scoff at (and then hike to Bushwick to meet up anyway like a damn fool). But what I couldn’t get over is that I was number 84 on his list of conquests. (He had a literal list of every woman he’d been with; he showed me once.) Eighty-four. When his number would flash on my phone, I’d wonder, “Did he scroll through all those names and think, Hmm, I’m in the mood for #84 tonight? Like I’m a McDonald’s order?” Shocker: This tryst ended with a disastrous heartbreak. But I’ve been able to keep that bit of the past behind me. Until, that is, a new dating trend like “cookie jarring”—when a dater keeps one hand in the proverbial cookie jar, making sure to always have someone on reserve in case their main squeeze doesn’t work out—crops up in my feed, and it all comes rushing back. Suddenly, I remember…Online dating is just Seamless for People. Let me put forth a scenario for you: It’s Tuesday night, you’re home from an arduous day of work, and the couch is calling. You figure you should do that whole dinner thing, and maybe even did some healthy meal prep over the weekend. But oh, Chinese food

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2019 Health Fashion

Why body-inclusivity hero Dana Falsetti is over Instagram

3 min read

January 27, 2019 at 07:44AM by CWC As a leading voice in the body-inclusivity movement, yoga teacher Dana Falsetti’s @nolatrees posts have been a must-read among the healthy-living Instagram world for years. But not anymore. And it’s not because she’s any less thoughtful, challenging, or influential. It’s because she’s not going to post anymore. Via Instagram Stories, Falsetti told her 316,000 followers that the social media platform is an “abusive relationship” from which she needs to heal. “There has been a lot of trauma. Visible and not. As much as I regularly wish I could, I can’t will trauma not to have its impact.” —Dana Falsetti “I am grieving, realizing my relationship with this community and this work is the most intense one I’ve ever been in and I tie every memory back to this account and how it all began. Through therapy I’ve come to realize it’s been a five-year abusive relationship, even with all it’s given me,” she says. “There has been a lot of trauma. Visible and not. As much as I regularly wish I could, I can’t will trauma not to have its impact. Being in these spaces re-traumatizes me so quickly that my mental health plummets just as fast. I need to heal.” Photo: Cheyenne Gil What’s next for her? She admits that it’s scary to close this door, but feels it’s necessary. “Change is fucking scary. Right now it means accepting that beautiful things don’t have to last to any semblance of permanence to be

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2019 Wellbeing City

Here Are 6 Clear Signs You Actually Love Someone, According To Science

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January 27, 2019 at 05:00AM And what to do next. Continue Reading… You’ve probably heard that “love works in mysterious ways”—so, uh, how exactly are you supposed to wade through all that mystery and know if it’s real or not? Social media, movies, and pop culture, in general, will have you believe that love is meant to feel like fireworks and butterflies. You’re supposed to hear music and “see the light.” So, what if you don’t? Does that mean it’s not true love? The short answer is no. Falling in love can mean many different things and it’s felt in many different ways—and that love can evolve over time. Nearly everyone in long-term relationships has doubt and questions at some point. “We don’t stay in that high place all the time,” Linda Carroll, M.S., a licensed marriage and family therapist and life coach, told mbg. “Some days are cloudy, some are stormy, some are gray, and sometimes the sun shines. Relationships are seasonal and cyclical.” But you can rest easy knowing that there are actually a few key signs that will help you figure out if what you’re experiencing is real love or not, even if things aren’t always “perfect”: 1. You feel no pain. You’ve probably heard stories of mothers who instantaneously gain incredible strength to save their children from impending dangers. It turns out there’s science behind the connection between being in love and feeling no pain. One study showed that simply viewing a photograph of your romantic

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2019 Health Vegetarians

Halp! What should I do if I’ve burned my tongue?

4 min read

January 27, 2019 at 05:00AM by CWC There’s a high price to pay for wanting to feel cozy. As we try to get our hygge on, swaddled in a weighted blanket, it takes all of 0.02 seconds before—ack—you burned your GD tongue. That’s what you get for wanting a nostalgia-imbibing cup of cocoa or, God forbid, tea within 15 minutes of boiling it. Pop goes the hygge bubble, because when you burn your mouth, it feels like you’re dying and you never want to eat food again. First thing’s first: how legit is this burn? Even if it feels like someone committed arson in your mouth, there’s a slight chance you could be getting too worked up. Put the pizza down and pause…is this a sharp sting, or are you blistering? “Often times when eating hot foods, like pizza or coffee, you can experience a superficial burn of the mucosal lining of the mouth,” says Payam Daneshrad, MD, of Daneshrad Clinic ENT. “If a blister forms, it is best to leave it intact. If the blisters ruptures, a non-water soluble salve like Bag Balm can protect the raw area.” Next step: Cool down the mouth But maybe skip the sucking-on-an-ice-cube thing. There have been more than a handful of studies that frown on using ice to aid in the healing process, and the general consensus is that you want to use something that has graduated to liquid form. Yup, go the route of H20 or something decidedly refreshing. “Drink something cold

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2019 Health

Believe it or not, we’re halfway through winter—here’s why that’s a big deal astrologically

5 min read

January 27, 2019 at 04:00AM by CWC The midpoint between the winter solstice and the spring equinox, known as Imbolc, happens this week. Yay! Are we still shivering out here in these streets? Most definitely. But spring energy is starting to bloom—and heads up, it may feel explosive, says astrologer Jennifer Racioppi.  Monday, January 28 The week begins with the moon waning in Scorpio, a fixed water sign closely related to secrets, sexuality, and a desire for intimacy. Simultaneously, Venus, who rules love, makes a positive angle known as a trine to Eris, the dwarf planet of feminine discord and strife. This cosmic combination amplifies your ability to own and integrate your shadow. Leverage the sexy-noir overtones of the day. This week has some explosive tendencies and simultaneously some remarkably harmonious aspects too. Yes, it’s Monday. But! If you can find your turn-on, and become the seductress of your self-care, do it. This week has some explosive tendencies and simultaneously some remarkably harmonious aspects too. Staying in your power, feeling nourished and alive, supports you immensely. Tap into your desires, and make peace with your dark side. Tuesday, January 29 The planet of communication, Mercury, conjoins the sun in Aquarius today, amplifying the capacity to think both creatively and intuitively. With the sun and Mercury at 9 degrees of Aquarius (the sign of the water bearer), big-picture thinking and expansive visioning go a long way. Beyond just thinking about what you want to create, consider your why. How will getting what you

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