February 10, 2019 at 10:30AM by CWC Sometimes, when I know I’m going to have to talk about my mental health with loved ones, I prepare like I’m heading into battle. I load myself up with mantras for calm, consider the facts I need to know, and affix it all like armor to deflect from well-meaning but destructive utterances. So many people don’t have the language for how to talk about this stuff, and it often results in everyone feeling a little bit more terrible than they did before. This year, for instance, I worked through one of the worst depressions of my life—it lasted a year, and I felt as though I was drowning, constantly. Living across the country from most of the people I love means their understanding of my mental space hinges almost entirely on my ability to communicate it in a way they’ll understand—a way that doesn’t make them worry or feel as though they need to say the “right” thing. So, I consulted with my family, friends, and New York-based behavior analyst Makenzie Sandler to figure out how to avoid the seemingly innocuous conversational pitfalls that stop mental health discussions in their tracks. Photo: Getty Images/Klaus Vedfelt Don’t: Offer unsolicited advice This one can be hard, as it feels almost hard-wired into how we as people communicate. But sometimes it does more harm than good. “Most times, the person does not want your advice,” Sandler cautions. “Pause and reflect before you spew out your well-meaning
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These sculptural purses are tiny works of art but still big enough to hold your wellness essentials
February 10, 2019 at 09:00AM by CWC Although the ’90s will truly never die, as the fashion seasons go by, the ’80s are making it abundantly clear that they are plotting an aesthetic takeover of their own. (Just think of the return of the scrunchie, the leisure suit, and the neons that have recently become the color scheme du jour.) Recently, I’ve noticed another ’80s design aesthetic finding new life and purpose: tiny handbags that double as decorative objects. Really, these purses are sculptural works of art that are as suitable on your arm as they would be dropped into a Memphis Design Group installation. While my searches for an authentic item from the iconic design group have turned up mildly traumatizing (I’ve recently been salivating over a very chic, yet very expensive, $15,000 shelf), these bags start at $40 and cap out at $1,000, which is much more realistic. As a person who thrives in organized chaos, this is a 2019 purse trend I can get behind because when I randomly drop it onto my table, instead of looking like the antithesis to Marie Kondo that I am, it looks like I’m a capable adult with enough design talent to have managed to curate a wabi sabi-esque scheme in my home. Although some of these bags, shapes, and materials would have you think that they are not “practical,” each and every one of them definitely is—for starters, they all pair very well with your favorite pair of leggings and they’re each big
Prepare yourself because Heather Anderson only makes these Pilates ring moves look easy
February 10, 2019 at 08:00AM by CWC Unlike Ariana Grande, I can’t quite afford to give my six best friends rings of the bling-bling variety. I can, however, afford a Pilates ring or two. (Am I stretching right now… pun intended?) They’re cheap! And, they supercharge my new favorite thing: quick-yet-effective at-home workouts that can be squeezed into even the smallest windows of time. To find out how best to utilize them unsupervised, I asked New York Pilates founder Heather Anderson for her favorite ring-based moves. Below, she runs through a list of her MVPs step-by-step. Keeping reading for 5 Pilates ring exercises that’ll burn your bum (and beyond). GIF: New York Pilates 1. Shoulder bridges with the ring on outer thighs “First, thread both legs through the Pilates ring so that the pads rest on the outer thighs, just above the knees,” Anderson instructs. “Then, lift the pelvis up to a shoulder bridge position and press out on the ring until you feel your ‘saddlebags’ activate. Finally, lower the pelvis back down as if you’re sitting in a chair and release pressure on the ring. That’s one rep—repeat 20 times or until your bum needs a break!” GIF: New York Pilates 2. Crisscross “Lying on your back, draw bent knees into tabletop and interlace your fingers behind your head,” says Anderson. “Then, exhale to nod and curl head, neck, and shoulders off the ground. Next, place the Pilates ring so that the pads are resting between the right elbow and left
7 Ways Morning Sex Strengthens Relationships & How To Actually Make It Happen
February 10, 2019 at 06:06AM Get it on before you get out of bed. Continue Reading… Author Kayleigh Roberts | Life by Daily Burn Selected by iversue
This year, fitting in a Valentine’s Day yoga class could give you extra cosmic magic
February 10, 2019 at 06:00AM by CWC Who doesn’t love a long, luxurious savasana? (Oh yeah, me—when I’m feeling anxious.) According to astrologer Jennifer Racioppi, it’s extra worth it to stick it out at the end of class on Thursday, because the best (cosmic) way to boost boo time on Valentine’s Day is by taking it slow. Monday, February 11 The waxing moon, moving through luscious Taurus, asks you to keep a close on eye on what feels pleasurable to you. However, Venus, Taurus’ ruler, currently travels in the sign of practical Capricorn, meaning what might feel most pleasurable probably dovetails as responsible, too. Yes, getting things done will feel sexy today. What might feel most pleasurable probably dovetails as responsible, too. Yes, getting things done will feel sexy today. So, get out your to-do list and be sure to check things off. Trust your instincts. With Venus ruling the moon, and simultaneously making a harmonious angle to the moon, today requires you to lead with your fierce and wild feminine side. Tuesday, February 12 Today marks the halfway point between the last new moon in Aquarius and the upcoming full moon in Virgo. The waxing quarter moon, happening at 23 degrees of Taurus, squares the sun (aka makes a sharp angle) at 23 degrees of Aquarius—translation: it’s a good time to reflect on intentions set at the previous new moon. Check in. How are things progressing? Are your thoughts, words, and actions aligned with what you say you want? If
No matter how un-chill you are, it’s always possible to let go and move on
February 10, 2019 at 05:00AM by CWC “Remember not to care about the things you don’t even care about.” I haven’t stopped thinking about this simple, singular piece of advice poet Cleo Wade offered me when we recently sat down to discuss her new campaign with Aerie. It popped into my brain when I was annoyed that a guy I went on one date with hadn’t texted me, then again a few days later when a friend made a snarky comment about my outfit, and again during pretty much every phone conversation I’ve had with my mom since. I’m the opposite of “chill“: I regularly sweat the small stuff, and am the queen of holding grudges for years at a time (…just ask the girl who kissed my sixth-grade boyfriend). Wade, on the other hand, epitomizes it. Her Instagram is full of artwork and poetry that redefine the inspirational-quote landscape (as in, none of it’s cheesy at all), and her work is a constant reminder that we can choose to have power over our thoughts—including the not-so-nice ones. A few weeks before we met, Wade posted a quote that read, “Just a friendly reminder: Letting sh*t go is always an available option,” and the words struck me. Because while they make *~*letting sh*t go*~* sound so, so easy, the reality (for me, at least) is that it can often feel impossibly hard in practice. So I asked her, point blank: How the eff do I do it? “One way that
How to keep a lovefest going all day long: Candice Kumai’s matcha pancakes
February 10, 2019 at 04:00AM by CWC Well+Good Council member Candice Kumai is the author of six books, including her latest, Kintsugi Wellness, which gives life lessons on how to cultivate inner strength and live a gracious life, through different Japanese traditions—and includes lots of yummy recipes. Here, she shares one of her faves. When I really like someone, I make them pancakes in the morning. It’s a staple in my household and a simple gesture to show someone I care. And because it’s that time of year when pink and red hearts are taking over every store window, I’m sharing my tried-and-true recipe with you, so you can spread the pancake love, too. (It’s way healthier and yummier than those little candy hearts.) Maybe you whip up a stack for your S.O., surprising him or her with breakfast in bed on Valentine’s Day morning. Or maybe you keep the lovefest going through the weekend and make them together for brunch on Saturday or Sunday. Or maybe you want to show love to your mom, best friend, or group of girlfriends, inviting them over for weekend brunch. Whoever you decide to make these very special pancakes for, they are sure to provide an energizing start to the day thanks to the not-so secret ingredient: matcha, which is what I rely on to power my day in place of coffee. That, and of course really wholesome, nourishing ingredients. And fortunately, this recipe has both. Candice Kumai’s matcha pancakes Makes 10 to 12 pancakes
The Top 3 Mistakes Everyone Makes On The Keto Diet (And How To Fix Them)
February 10, 2019 at 04:10AM A functional doc solves your problems. Continue Reading… Author William Cole, D.C., IFMCP | Life by Daily Burn Selected by iversue
Half Of People On Dating Apps Are Looking For THIS
February 10, 2019 at 03:52AM More people want something serious than you think. Continue Reading… Author Madison Vanderberg | Life by Daily Burn Selected by iversue