The definitive guide to the best dating apps for finding love and sex (or whatever)

March 08, 2019 at 06:17AM by CWC It’s easy to get overwhelmed by dating apps. The endless stream of matches, messages, gifs, and shirtless selfies is a lot. But the dating burnout can start as early as not knowing which dating app to use in the first place. Tinder? Bumble? Something that connects you with dogs (I mean, dog owners)? How do you choose the best dating apps for you? Now, I’ll level for you, your literal mother and I are probably the only two people who aren’t using dating apps at the moment. To each their own, but I can’t do it, it’s too Seamless-y (and IDK, it would probably tick off my S.O.). But I’m not like a regular mom, I’m a cool mom, and if you’re going to use the apps I’d rather you do it based on what you’re looking for. And whether that’s a DTF dude to boink, a woman you can grow old with, or someone with a full and robust beard, here’s how to get started. These are the best dating apps to use right now, in no particular order 1. Tinder Great if: You’re looking for something easy right now. I won’t sermonize here because most of you are intimately acquainted with the app. In short, Tinder is best if you’re looking for something low-commitment, in uh, a variety of ways. It’s no muss, no fuss swipe-intensive approach works for quick hook-ups with the very occasional long-term success story. 2. Ship Great if: You, like,

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The sure-fire way to make your ab workout more challenging? Adjust the tempo

March 08, 2019 at 05:00AM by CWC Let’s face it: There are few fitness moves quite as boring as holding a multi-minute plank or doing a zillion sit-ups in a row for the sake of a stronger core. And while there are plenty of ways to spice up your ab routine—a la creative crunches or props—after a while, they all start to feel pretty snoozy, too. But one thing you may not have tried before? Changing up the speed of your movements. Not only will applying the principles of “tempo training” to your ab workouts keep things interesting, but it can also help make the moves more effective. “Switching up the speed adds dynamics to your ab routine. By playing with those dynamics, it forces you to not only engage your mind by making it nearly impossible to zone out but it challenges your muscles to fire in two different ways,” explains Kendall Roach, founder of New York City’s newest invite-only fitness studio, The Ness. “When you add speed, you trigger your muscles to fire up and react quickly. When you slow it down you can focus on the length and integrity of the movement. Those two dynamics together create a one-two punch for challenge and performance.” By moving your body in what Roach calls “multifaceted ways,” you’re able to enhance the results you’re working toward. “Working any muscle slowly allows the body to burn fat faster, by firing up slow twitch muscle fibers, while adding speed to that same

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Why receiving a surprising platonic ‘I love you’ is so common (and so awkward)

March 08, 2019 at 05:00AM by CWC Right after getting off the phone with my 70-something-year-old landlord about a leaking toilet, my boyfriend burst into laughter. “Did you just say ‘I love you’ to your landlord?” he asked.“What? No. Did I?”“Yeah, you did. You said ‘Okay, I love you, talk to you later.’” Um, well, whoops—that’s awkward. I love yous can feel unpredictable, random, and tricky to digest when you’re the surprised recipient of one. And when the source is a platonic, possibly fresh relationship, the strangeness can feel even more magnified. Hey, you might just not have that bond with Karen in accounting, who says she loves you after you did her a quick favor. NBD! Still, why is it that hearing “I love you” from someone new-ish to your life can be so jarringly weird? First things first: It’s not a phrase to be taken lightly. There are roughly 14,000 episodes of teen dramas dedicated to those three words and eight letters on the CW alone. In short, it’s a high-stakes thing to say, which helps explain why our first reaction is often of the “???” variety. That awkwardness arrives when we don’t feel the same way about the loose acquaintance or third-tier work friend. Or, perhaps more precisely, it’s awkward when we don’t feel about the person how we assume they feel about us, courtesy of the “I love you.” But before you offer a return “I love you” out of politeness slash horror slash shock, take a hot sec

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Here’s how to get in on today’s worldwide feminist meditation

March 08, 2019 at 03:30AM by CWC Today is International Women’s Day—an opportunity to recognize and support women around the globe. To mark the occasion, Kundalini yoga teacher Guru Jagat is leading a global meditation. Here, the Well+Good Council member explains the idea behind her new campaign, #WhyImAFeministWhoMeditates. 2019 is the year of womxn. And no matter what your gender identification, we all can be supporters of feminism and womanism as a movement of listening and exalting the feminine principle on this planet. With a record number of 131 women holding congressional office this year (35% of those seats held by women of color!) and lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer political representation on the rise, it’s clear that the matrices of political power are changing—and quickly! Though an intersectional future is closely in sight, there is still a long way to go with many rivers to cross on our collective journey toward social and political inclusion, unity, and power. It’s why I feel it’s a critical and perfect time to launch #WhyImAFeministWhoMeditates. I believe some sort of contemplative and conscious practice is no longer a luxury. I believe some sort of contemplative and conscious practice is no longer a luxury—in whatever way inspires inner assessment and deepening awareness. And those personal practices are keystones to the expansion of ruthless compassion for ourselves and others and the momentum accelerators to action as better, more informed, more action-oriented citizens, business people and neighbors. If your meditation or prayer practice isn’t inspiring

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The scientific reasons why sweet-and-salty foods turn us into snack monsters

March 08, 2019 at 03:00AM by CWC I like to think I have a decent amount of self-control when it comes to snacking. But put any sweet-meets-salty treat in front of me—like yogurt-covered pretzels or chocolate-dipped potato chips—and suddenly I turn into a leggings-clad Cookie Monster, leaving behind nothing but an empty bag and a few crumbs. To be clear, it’s only the combination of sweet and salty that I can’t resist. I don’t care for straight-up savory snacks, like plain pretzels or chips, and can only eat a few bites of a sugary dessert without feeling nauseous. Judging by the number of hybrid flavors at the grocery store right now, from salted caramel ice cream to Chicago-style popcorn, I’m not the only one who’s obsessed. So what’s up with that? In a quest to find out why salty-sweet snacks are so damn addicting, I first called upon food historian Sarah Wassberg Johnson. She confirmed that the roots of this pairing go way back, long before the peanut M&M was born. “Sweet and savory combination foods were quite popular in the ancient Middle East and later in Medieval Europe—mostly meat cooked with fruit and, particularly during the Medieval period, with sweet imported spices like cinnamon, mace, allspice, and nutmeg,” she says. (Hmm, def less appealing that PB-filled pretzels.) Candied salted nuts and other desserts were also a thing back in those days, she adds. These were mostly restricted to the wealthy, however, since refined sugar was hard to come by. So,

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