Month: May 2019

May 24, 2019 at 07:32AM by CWC When you get into an argument, you’re clearly trying to get across a certain point. And if you’re being totally honest, you’d probably love nothing more than to “win” that fight and prove your conflict companion wrong. There are a few ways to react to arguments, and while none of them are wrong, per se, there’s one course of action in particular that’s likely to torpedo any odds of you winning the verbal altercation: losing your cool. “People will often remember how you say something more than what you say,” says counselor David Klow, LMFT, author of You Are Not Crazy: Letters From Your Therapist. “The way in which you communicate your message makes a difference: If you get angry during an argument, the point you’re trying to make will often get lost.” Furthermore, yelling, screaming, and losing control of your emotions during an argument instantly makes you seem subordinate to the person with whom you’re in confrontation, clinical psychologist John Mayer, PhD, author of Family Fit: Find Your Balance in Life. “If you get angry during an argument, the point you’re trying to make will often get lost.” —David Klow, LMFT Ultimately, losing your cool isn’t the most healthy way to respond to any conflict, says clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula, PhD, author of Should I Stay or Should I Go?. And the reason for that goes beyond the matter of who’s going to win the argument at hand. “People get worked up in a sympathetic, nervous-system

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May 24, 2019 at 07:32AM by CWC When you get into an argument, you’re clearly trying to get across a certain point. And if you’re being totally honest, you’d probably love nothing more than to “win” that fight and prove your conflict companion wrong. There are a few ways to react to arguments, and while none of them are wrong, per se, there’s one course of action in particular that’s likely to torpedo any odds of you winning the verbal altercation: losing your cool. “People will often remember how you say something more than what you say,” says counselor David Klow, LMFT, author of You Are Not Crazy: Letters From Your Therapist. “The way in which you communicate your message makes a difference: If you get angry during an argument, the point you’re trying to make will often get lost.” Furthermore, yelling, screaming, and losing control of your emotions during an argument instantly makes you seem subordinate to the person with whom you’re in confrontation, clinical psychologist John Mayer, PhD, author of Family Fit: Find Your Balance in Life. “If you get angry during an argument, the point you’re trying to make will often get lost.” —David Klow, LMFT Ultimately, losing your cool isn’t the most healthy way to respond to any conflict, says clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula, PhD, author of Should I Stay or Should I Go?. And the reason for that goes beyond the matter of who’s going to win the argument at hand. “People get worked up in a sympathetic, nervous-system

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May 24, 2019 at 05:43AM by CWC Shopping for bathing suits is my weakness. Spending upwards of $100 on a shred of fabric so small that it only covers the bare minimum of body parts in order for me to go out in public seems ludicrous, but what can I say? I love it. What I don’t love is that after three or four dips in the pool, my so-expensive-I-refuse-to-admit-it bikinis have faded, and thanks to the chlorine, the whites turn to yellow and the yellows turn to a weird shade of puke green. I’m meticulous about rinsing and repeating after every swim, but even still, I frequently wind up feeling like I literally threw $100 down the (pool) drain. So what’s a laps-loving swimsuit connoisseur to do? Invest in chlorine-resistant swim, which will help suits hold up for longer than you’d possibly imagine. “Chlorine resistant swimsuits are made out of either Poly/Spandex or Nylon/Xtralife Lycra fabrics, while most ‘regular’ suits are made out of Nylon/Spandex fabrics,” says Swimsuits For All design director Kristina Guilmain. “Chlorine resistant suits hold color better when exposed to chlorine-treated water. Those that are made from Xtralife Lycra also have less stretch fatigue because the stretchy yarns literally ‘resist’ the effects of chlorine exposure.” Since these durable suits will last well into next summer (and the one after that, and the one after that), not only will they save you (and me) money in the long run, but they’re also creating less waste because you’re holding

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May 24, 2019 at 04:00AM by CWC Even though most people spend a considerable amount of time in their car, it’s not often thought of as a hot spot for germs. After all, that’s the bathroom’s reputation. Surprisingly, the interior spaces of your car are teeming with bacteria. In fact, parts of some vehicles host considerably more germs than a toilet seat. In the study from insurance company Netquote, a team swabbed various surfaces in different cars: request rideshare vehicles (like Uber), rental cars, and taxis. While they found plenty of germy surfaces (rideshare vehicles are by far the worst offenders), the lack of cleanliness on seat belts really stood out, which were dirtier than window buttons and door handles in some situations. “Toilet seats and coffee reservoirs both contained fewer microorganism than rideshares and rental cars,” reads the study. The numbers don’t lie. “It all comes down to the frequency of cleaning. All surfaces that are touched regularly by numerous people will be germy. That’s why we clean them,” says Jason Tetro, microbiologist and author of The Germ Files. “Taxis are required to keep their cars clean, meaning they may be using cleaners and disinfectants that will aerosolize onto the belts and help keep the microbial numbers low. Another thing to think about is how often people who jump in a cab use the seat belt versus those who are in ride sharing. I’ve been in some cars where even in the back seat the seat belt is required. This

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May 24, 2019 at 04:00AM by CWC Even though most people spend a considerable amount of time in their car, it’s not often thought of as a hot spot for germs. After all, that’s the bathroom’s reputation. Surprisingly, the interior spaces of your car are teeming with bacteria. In fact, parts of some vehicles host considerably more germs than a toilet seat. In the study from insurance company Netquote, a team swabbed various surfaces in different cars: request rideshare vehicles (like Uber), rental cars, and taxis. While they found plenty of germy surfaces (rideshare vehicles are by far the worst offenders), the lack of cleanliness on seat belts really stood out, which were dirtier than window buttons and door handles in some situations. “Toilet seats and coffee reservoirs both contained fewer microorganism than rideshares and rental cars,” reads the study. The numbers don’t lie. “It all comes down to the frequency of cleaning. All surfaces that are touched regularly by numerous people will be germy. That’s why we clean them,” says Jason Tetro, microbiologist and author of The Germ Files. “Taxis are required to keep their cars clean, meaning they may be using cleaners and disinfectants that will aerosolize onto the belts and help keep the microbial numbers low. Another thing to think about is how often people who jump in a cab use the seat belt versus those who are in ride sharing. I’ve been in some cars where even in the back seat the seat belt is required. This

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