August 16, 2019 at 03:01AM by CWC I’ve never been particularly traditional, especially when it comes to relationships, but even I was thrown for a loop after falling in love with someone who “didn’t do monogamy.” Matt was a musician with a punk mentality who “didn’t do” much of anything conventional. At first, his argument against monogamy read to me like an argument for the sexual promiscuity so easily enabled by tour life. But when I told him there had been chaos in my childhood due to infidelity, he asked me if I thought that the constant turmoil, which resulted from the expectation of monogamy, was actually easier to deal with than the understanding that the expectation is unnatural and therefore shouldn’t be imposed. I had to admit I could see his point. Still, I more so agreed to try a polyamorous setup because I was head over heels and just wanted to continue the relationship, not because I actually wanted to do it. I wasn’t happy about it, either. I have a mean jealous streak, and knowledge of his relationships outside of ours made me crazy, especially because I couldn’t imagine seeing anyone else. Or at least, not at first. My two relationships were very different, and I was getting different needs met in both. Then, I met someone else who, for various reasons, wasn’t right for an all-or-nothing relationship either. So, I began to see them both, and eventually I was in love with two different people at
Month: August 2019
Asked and answered: Does getting acupuncture hurt—even a little bit?
August 16, 2019 at 02:35AM by CWC [youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=juOrU0HAjYA] Does acupuncture really help you relax? Watch the video to find out. As far as wellness trends go, acupuncture is basically the OG. In fact, it’s barely a trend at all—it’s an ancient wellness practice. Still, first-timers may have anxieties about that first session, which, in practice, can really infringe on an ability to Zen out. That’s why the latest episode of What the Wellness, the Well+Good YouTube series that follows producer Ella Dove as she unpacks the wildest practices of wellness, aims to quell that timeless question of “does acupuncture hurt?” “Acupuncture needles are the size of human hair, so because the needles are so small, acupuncture is actually a relaxing experience,” says Shari Auth, DACM, co-founder and chief healing officer of New York City-based acupuncture center WTHN. Auth, an acupuncturist, adds that the practice works with with your body’s connective tissue to send messages to your brain that alter brain chemistry. On a physical level, it functions similarly to a massage by loosening tight muscles and producing collagen. (So, yeah, sounds better and also completely different than syringes doctors stick you with.) “Acupuncture needles are the size of human hair, so because the needles are so small, acupuncture is actually a relaxing experience.” —acupuncturist Shari Auth, DACM At WTHN, sound therapy is melded into the treatment (on a heated table!) via beats and guided meditation. Dove selects “Chill” as her track of choice because, of course. She also opts
Um, When Is It OK To Ask For Money? Here’s What An Expert Says
August 16, 2019 at 01:19AM When you’re short on cash, here’s what to do. Continue Reading… Author Alexandra Engler | Life by Daily Burn Selected by CWC
How Your Blood Sugar Levels Could Be Sabotaging Your Sleep
August 16, 2019 at 01:06AM New study published in Menopause draws the first connection between type 2 diabetes and sleep disturbances. Continue Reading… Author Gretchen Lidicker, M.S. | Life by Daily Burn Selected by CWC
3 Benefits Of Thinking About Your Mortality At Least Once A Day
August 16, 2019 at 12:34AM Plus, how to shift your mindset if thinking about death triggers fear. Continue Reading… Author Shoshana Ungerleider, M.D. | Life by Daily Burn Selected by CWC
Are You Bloated Despite Eating Super Healthy? These Expert Tips May Help
August 16, 2019 at 12:03AM Luckily, there are a few simple solutions. Continue Reading… Author Liz Moody | Life by Daily Burn Selected by CWC
Deepak Chopra, M.D., On Consciousness, Connection & Waking Up To The World
August 15, 2019 at 09:03PM Tune in to today’s podcast episode to hear more from the renowned teacher. Continue Reading… Author Jason Wachob | Life by Daily Burn Selected by CWC
Can’t figure out why you’re upset? Just look to the ‘triangle of change’
August 15, 2019 at 04:00PM by CWC I can’t tell you how many times I’ve found myself feeling upset, and when my boyfriend or BFF asks “what’s wrong?” all that follows is extreme confusion. In fact, I often even feel this way when I personally try to introspect to decipher what the heck feels wrong. While I clearly sometimes have trouble understanding my emotions, a quick poll of my co-workers revealed to me that this is a way more common scenario than I initially realized. And that’s largely why I was so happy to discover the triangle of change. The triangle of change is a revolutionary (but actually classic) model for addressing the oh-so-common exchange of “what’s wrong?” “oh, nothing….” And it’s so necessary, because not much feels worse than being in a funk, yet not being able to find your way out because you can’t pinpoint the root cause of the bad feelings. When I first came upon this idea, dubbed “The Change Triangle” by psychotherapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW, in a Psychology Today article, I finally felt seen. The thought behind it is that your emotions can stem from three basic elements: core emotions, inhibitory emotions, and defenses. Upon understanding each of those, pros say you’re instantly better equipped to handle those emotions, feelings, and concerns. “The triangle of change assists individuals in making sense of their emotions in the most tolerable way possible,” says psychotherapist Jennifer Silvershein, LCSW. “It’s largely supported by the tools we’re taught through
Society still has a pretty messed up way of talking about ‘healthy’ eating—here’s why that matters
August 15, 2019 at 03:00PM by CWC When I first started writing about food several years ago, I didn’t think twice about referring to mac and cheese as an “indulgence” or using the term “clean eating.” I tried to steer clear of talk about calorie counting, weight, or fad diets (so progressive, I thought!), but my tone in some ways still implied that certain styles of eating were better than others. I’ve since learned that healthy eating looks different for everybody. A promising new study from June even backs this up, finding that 60 percent of how a person’s body reacts to food is completely unrelated to their DNA. Our bodies all have slightly different needs, and while some things are objectively true (everyone could stand to eat some more vegetables!), there’s variation in the details. Some people might swear by the keto diet for revved-up energy levels and mental clarity, for example, while others might say the same about the Paleo diet or veganism. So why do so many of us—writers, nutrition experts, and researchers included—talk about food choices in very, well, judgmental ways? In the wellness world we may have moved on from praising “bikini bodies” and “cleansing,” but the words we choose to talk about healthy food so often imply (or scream outright) that certain ways of eating are inherently good and others are bad. The morality of food choices goes back a long way Nutrition is a relatively young science. The first government food guide, Farmer’s Bulletin,
These swimsuits double as sports bras, so I’ll be wearing them long past Labor Day
August 15, 2019 at 02:00PM by CWC I’ve long been a believer in strategic swimwear. I love when a triangle top that peeks out during a dance-floor move can be excused as a bathing suit, or a when bandeau bikini that gives new, family-gathering-appropriate life to a v-neck that might have otherwise been cut too low. In my opinion, a swimsuit styled with actual clothing is the definition of summer outfit perfection. And applying this double-duty move to activewear—aka wearing your bikini top as a sports bra—is not only stylish, but it’s actually a fairly logical move. For me, throwing on a supportive bathing suit and heading to a workout about the ease of wear, and also about getting twice the bang for your bathing suit buck… even if swimming isn’t even part of the equation that day. Practicing free yoga stretches in my living room to Amazon Prime’s finest instructors means that a torso-flattering Boys + Arrows Phil Top ($98) can provide just the right lines and lift without the pressure. And for frisbee tosses on the actual beach, Cover’s Swim Sports Bra ($100) is a real winner. This multitasking attitude has been everywhere lately, as brands give bikini/sports bra hybrids new life both in and out of the water. Photo: Summersalt Summersalt Mesh Diver Bikini Top ($50) Take Summersalt, the sustainable swimwear label who launched their activewear line this month with the intention of giving everything from halter bikini tops to color-blocked leggings a double meaning. Pulled on