Day: November 16, 2019

November 16, 2019 at 10:00PM by CWC Even if you’re the kind of person friends describe as “super chill,” someone who prides yourself on the ability to keep cool when faced with all types of conflict, everyone experiences friction now and then—and that’s not inherently bad. The key, of course, is knowing how to deal with it. No one knows how to handle different types of conflict better than the founders of The Gottman Institute, Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, and her husband and collaborator John M. Gottman, PhD. The psychologists are skilled at providing insightful advice to others, having spent decades studying thousands of relationships. They have a deep, vast understanding about the type of conflict solutions that work—and what doesn’t. Instead of one universal “here’s what to do when confronted with conflict” rule to follow, the Gottmans say its important to fist identify the four types of conflict (commonly referred to as The Four Horsemen). Graphic: The Gottman Institute While most commonly used for conflicts in romantic relationships, identifying the types of conflict you’re confronted with and acting accordingly actually works regardless of who you’re disagreeing with, whether it’s a friend, colleague, or your mom. The 4 types of conflict 1. Criticism Hot tip: Straight up telling someone what it is about their personality that’s grating on you isn’t going to lead to anything positive (or productive). Instead of saying something like, “You’re so self-centered. Of course you forgot my birthday,” they suggest expressing how you feel using “I”

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November 16, 2019 at 08:00PM by CWC Codependent relationships can look very different, which likely part of the reason many of us use the term so loosely. It can be used to describe the couple in the on-again off-again relationship who can’t call it quits despite being awful for each other just as well as it can point to the couple with a penchant for matching outfits and use of the word “we” when RSVPing to any plans. Codependency implies being attached to the hip—there’s no doubt about that. But, I’ve always wondered whether there’s some dividing line between codependent relationships and genuinely wanting to spend every free and available waking moment with your partner because you love them so much and so earnestly. Like, can you simply just really enjoy matching outfits? Before diving right in, it’s helpful to have a strong grasp of what being codependent typically looks like: “Someone who’s codependent and has codependency issues usually enables someone else in an unhealthy way,” says psychotherapist Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT. “There is a need and dependence that overweighs the feelings of support. If you fear you are codependent, you usually find that it’s hard to communicate your feelings, it’s challenging to stand up for yourself, and you may have poor self-esteem.” A preference to spend time with a partner isn’t a surefire symptom of codependence. The distinction is whether there’s a need to be with each other at all times. “Need” and “dependence” are really big keywords here. Thompson assures

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November 16, 2019 at 06:00PM by CWC Now that tracking your heart rate is as common as knowing how many steps you take each day, I always have my eye on how fast my heart is pumping—especially when I’m working out. While my heart rate obviously reaches different levels during different types of workouts, it’s HIIT workouts where I really push myself. According to my tracker, I usually spend about a minute at max heart rate in a more intense workout. That might sound like a pretty short amount of time to be going as hard as you can, but trainers say that’s actually more than enough. You can find your max heart rate by subtracting your age from 220 (so, if you’re 31, yours would be 189 beats per minute), and when you hit this number during your workout it should feel like “an all-out sprint, like you are being chased by a tiger,” says Joanna Stahl, trainer and founder of Go2Practice. As for how long you should aim to hold that max heart rate for during HIIT? “Usually you should hold your max heart rate for 30 seconds, followed by 10 to 30 seconds for recovery,” says Phil Catudal, celebrity trainer and nutritionist. “Never hold it more than a minute though, unless you’re an elite athlete.” An example good use of your max heart rate is 30 seconds at 90 to 95 percent of your max, then 20 seconds at 65 percent of your max, then repeat, he says.

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November 16, 2019 at 02:00PM by CWC A whopping 415 million people in the world have rosacea. That’s a pretty large pie of the population that deals with one of the most confusing and frustrating skin conditions e-v-e-r. It’s hard to treat correctly, because well, it’s hard to tell if you even have rosacea in the first place. “A lot of people don’t know what’s making their skin inflamed, so they could be doing the wrong thing in their skin-care regimens, which inflames the rosacea even more,” says Sonya Dakar, celebrity facialist. It’s hard to pinpoint rosacea because, first of all, many different things can bring it on and cause a flare up. “Rosacea comes from several things: Genetics is number one,” she says. “Number two is lifestyle, and the third is the wrong ingredients coming into contact with the skin.” It can also be triggered by certain foods or even stress, adds Rachel Nazarian, MD, a board-certified dermatologist in New York. “Rosacea is a sensitive skin condition, and most notably it can be flared by a small shift in skin pH,” she says. Whether the rosacea is showing up in the form of pimples, redness, dryness, blotchiness, irritation, or stinging inflammation in general, treating it is all about using TLC and not going into combat with your harshest skin-care products. “Rosacea is inflamed skin, so you need to be anti-inflammatory with your regimen, and really protect, balance, and nourish the skin,” says Dakar, who formulated her macadamia and evening

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November 16, 2019 at 02:00AM by CWC I’ll admit it: I’m a gym zombie. If I have a free afternoon, I’ll spend it trying out new machines, practicing handstands, and stretching to my heart’s content. The habit’s not all that efficient, however. If you want to master quick workouts, Tatiana Lampa, trainer with Training with T, says you need to learn to bookend your workouts. In practice, bookending means having a clear beginning and end to all your workouts. That way, you won’t find yourself accidentally trying the underwater Zumba class your gym hosts every Thursday night (not speaking from experience, or anything). This full-body workout is a good one to start with: [youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eXBh8TgwefQ] “My recommendation is to always come up with a plan. If you found this really great workout on Instagram, just follow that guide-or you can simply make your own program,” says Lampa. Showing up at the gym with no guidance will lead to mindless wandering from machine to machine. So even if you don’t have time to plan your workout every single day, the trainer recommends keeping a few, full-body backup workouts pocketed on your phone for emergency gym needs. This quick workout includes six core strength exercises: [youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qsSBamlIhSc] Many mountain-climbers, treadmill sprints, and barbell exercises later, you’ll be just about done. Lampa says this is the perfect time to insert a burn out that will raise your heart rate and convince you that, yes, it really is time to go home. For you,

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November 16, 2019 at 01:00AM by CWC Be honest: The last time you took a trip to the bathroom, did you bring your phone with you? Don’t worry, you’re in good company—an estimated 80 percent of men and 69 percent of women do it, according to one survey. But while most of us tap through Instagram Stories or read articles that pop up in our news feeds, there’s potentially a more productive way to transform your phone-in-bathroom habit: take pictures of your poop. Sounds weird, I know, but that idea is key to the new joint project from gut health and probiotic company Seed and AI company Auggi. The two companies are asking people to take photos of their poop and to (anonymously) upload them to their online database. Then, Auggi will use machine learning to teach their algorithm the difference between healthy and unhealthy poop, and (eventually) use that data to offer up solutions to those with GI probs. The campaign, amazingly enough, is called #GiveAShit. (For science.) Typically, when a gastroenterologist asks you about your poop, they use the Bristol Stool Scale (a diagnostic tool that classifies feces into seven different categories) to figure out why it looks a certain way. David Hachuel, co-founder and CEO of Auggi, says that with a robust database of images, Auggi’s AI technology can learn the patterns behind why different photos of poop look the way they do, assigning it a number on the same scale used by Bristol. “There’s an extraordinary

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