Month: November 2019

November 13, 2019 at 06:00PM by CWC There’s nothing like a battle of wit to keep your interest. In fact, many of us enjoy the notion that someone can match us in the art of playful banter, whether the verbal-repartee partner is a new love interest, a friend, or a colleague. Personally, I live for these sparring matches—I’m good at it. But sometimes, upon coming down from good-banter high, I’ve felt unsure as to whether I was being witty or plain old mean, which brings me to the concept of negging. It’s not a new thing, but it’s popularly designated for romantic-leaning situations in which one party undermines the confidence of the other in the form of backhanded compliments or comments. This practice may have the the effect of making the negged person so insecure that they feel the need to win the approval of the other via a hookup. But, little known reality: Platonic negging is also thing that can crop up in truly any relationship, be it a coworker, friend, or family member. Sometimes hard to spot in practice, so I’m left to wonder, what is negging, really, and can someone explain to me the fine line separating it from banter? According to clinical psychologist Aimee Daramus, PsyD, the difference is pretty subjective. “You pay them a compliment that makes them self-conscious, like ‘That extra weight looks cute!’ or ‘I think it’s great that you don’t try to bleach your freckles,’” says Dr. Daramus. And even when it’s

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November 13, 2019 at 04:00PM by CWC Theoretically, finding your soul mate should mark the end of your search for “the one,” right? Because what is a soul mate if not someone with whom you have a life-altering connection that gives purpose to those countless nights out and Hinge swipes and bad dates and awful breakups? (Just me?) Well unfortunately, relationship pros say finding your soul mate and living happily ever after aren’t necessarily linear events, because finding your soul mate doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve found a healthy relationship. “When you meet someone who has the same worldviews, you tend to find them more attractive, intelligent, and moral, but this bias can lead you to invest in those relationships based on this alone, ultimately making you feel that this person is your ‘soul mate,’” says Greta Tufvesson, co-founder of matchmaking service The Bevy, adding that these qualities alone aren’t necessarily enough when it comes to the person with whom you want to share the rest of your life. “The one is the person who complements you and makes you want to be better.” Still, finding someone who gives you a twin-souls vibe can obviously send sparks flying. But over time, you need something more than that to sustain a relationship. “It’s possible to meet somebody with whom you feel a soul connection that’s deep and profound, yet you’re not a good romantic match for each other,” says relationship expert Susan Winter, author of Breakup Triage: The Cure for Heartache. “Regardless

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November 13, 2019 at 02:30PM by CWC https://content.jwplatform.com/players/tUKnTeLS-AjgxWzQ7.js Come meet registered dietitians and Food Heaven founders Wendy Lopez and Jessica Jones in person this Thursday, November 14, from 12 p.m. to 2 p.m. at Citibank Union Square at 52 E 14 Street in New York City to learn savings tips and nutrition info, sample healthy bites, and score giveaways while supplies last. See you there! Once you start the process of tackling a big goal (think: start a business, buy a home, plan a celebration—you get the picture), does your brain end up malfunctioning and command-quitting on you? Good news: Saving for a big goal doesn’t have to be so overwhelming. Take it from Food Heaven founders and registered dietitians Wendy Lopez and Jessica Jones, who turned to a strategic savings plan to create the online healthy-eating platform. “Food Heaven started off as a passion project, and through savings we’ve really been able to grow our business and turn this into a full-time job,” explains Lopez. “We’re a go-to nutrition resource, especially for people who feel underrepresented within the wellness industry.” Saving was a major factor in launching the endeavor—and continues to fuel Food Heaven today. “[We set] up a savings account that was completely separate from our checking,” Jones says. “It allowed us to have a different mindset about the money that was already put away and really think about the big picture.” Watch the video for more ways you can save money in order to achieve a big

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November 13, 2019 at 01:00PM by CWC News flash: Your orgasm is not on a timer. It takes, well, as long as it takes to happen. Some people may only require a handful of penetrative thrusts, and others may need quite a bit of time, coupled with stimulation at a number of different points. Few of us will reach orgasm the same way in the same amount of time, yet thanks in large part to pop-culture imagery, many of us are inclined to feel like something’s amiss if we don’t orgasm simultaneously with a partner—and fast. The research on how long vulva-owners need in order to get from point A to point O is (mostly) MIA, but some science offers helpful hints: “The best data we have suggests it takes about 11 to 21 minutes for people with vulvas to reach full arousal and potential orgasm,” says certified sex therapist and K-Y partner Holly Richmond, PhD. But, adds sexologist and podcast host Jessica O’Reilly, PhD, ‘how long does it take to have an orgasm’ isn’t the question we should be asking in order to maximize our sexual experience. Compare this average-orgasm-time question to the idea of how long it takes to run a marathon: “Even if you tell me the average time is four hours, it might still take me two days,” Dr. O’Reilly says, highlighting the reality that averages don’t really matter in the scope of your own real personal experience. Furthermore, let’s not forget that trusty old fable about the

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