Year: 2019

July 26, 2019 at 02:00AM by CWC The time and energy we collectively (and individually) spend feeling guilty adds up considerably. According to one poll of 2,000 British people, the average amount of time spent feeling guilty is six and half hours a week. Another survey of 2,000 American parents found that they feel an average of 23 pangs of guilt every week about decisions they’ve made. And researchers at Carnegie Mellon University and the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill found that between 60 to 70 percent of 450 undergraduate students they surveyed scored high in guilt proneness, meaning they actually anticipate feelings of guilt before they even do anything. Given this pervasiveness of the feeling, it’s important to learn how to deal with guilt so it stops infiltrating our lives. Unfortunately though, there’s no cut-and-dry answer (if only!), and that’s largely due to guilt culture and the psychological implications of of the emotion and sensation. Anthropologist Ruth Benedict first defined the term “guilt culture” in the 1940s when studying cultural differences between Americans and Japanese. She concluded that US guilt culture characterizes “good” and “bad” by how our internal conscience feels. The guilt regulates behavior and maintains order. And, at least to some extent, that finding helps explain how we’ve been conditioned to feel guilty—in America and elsewhere. ad_intervals[‘390455_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’] = setInterval(function () { if (ads_ready) { clearTimeout(ad_intervals[‘390455_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’]); googletag.cmd.push(function(){googletag.display(‘div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’);}); } }, 100); Experiencing some level of guilt is normal and common, clearly, so why is it that we

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July 25, 2019 at 04:00PM by CWC When the boy I, um, “loved” in 8th grade texted me for the first time, I waited a cool 23 minutes and 45 seconds before flipping open my hot pink Motorola Razr and responding with a coy yet cute: “Hi, who’s this?” As a nascent teenager, I took Lady Gaga at her word when she called love “a game,” but years later, I’m weary, worn out, and so GD over making it seem like I’m low-key “kind of” into someone when really, the very idea of them makes me emotionally masturbate. So here’s my question: Should we toss the “playing hard to get” trope as we would a pilling pair of old leggings? Jordana Abraham and Jared Freid, co-hosts of Betches’ U Up? podcast tell me that, if ever there were a time to play chicken with the subject of your affection, now just isn’t it. “We are the tapas generation,” says Freid (who, as it will quickly become clear, is a stand-up comedian). “We want small plates because we don’t want to commit to anything.” ad_intervals[‘406528_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’] = setInterval(function () { if (ads_ready) { clearTimeout(ad_intervals[‘406528_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’]); googletag.cmd.push(function(){googletag.display(‘div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’);}); } }, 100); When you lock away parts of yourself from others for the sake of keeping “an air of mystery,” you place hurdles in front of your new boo, which might prompt them to turn away from you (the patatas bravas, obviously) to someone else (who’s say, the croquetas). “If you’re trying to meet someone on a

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July 25, 2019 at 12:37PM by CWC The first time I bought a face moisturizer (on a trip to Walgreens with my dad), all I needed to know was whether my skin was dry, oily, or a combination of the two. Now, it’s not that simple. While basic moisturizers aren’t going anywhere, multitasking products are giving them a run for their money. You can now brighten, promote collagen production, and fight acne, all while rubbing in a moisturizer. “Creams and serums that are multifunctional are a must when you are a busy and efficient person who still wants to look good while on the go,” says Janelle Vega, MD, a Miami-based dermatologist and co-founder of BIA Life, a site that gives customers personalized skin care routines tailored by dermatologists. Dr. Vega says these creams work best when they include ingredients you would use daily, instead of a topical you don’t use as often. ad_intervals[‘410847_div-gpt-ad-7520022-3’] = setInterval(function () { if (ads_ready) { clearTimeout(ad_intervals[‘410847_div-gpt-ad-7520022-3’]); googletag.cmd.push(function(){googletag.display(‘div-gpt-ad-7520022-3’);}); } }, 100); “Using a combination with antioxidants and peptides in your moisturizer—that’s a no brainer,” she says. “However, avoid combination creams with retinols and AHA or BHA, which you may need to layer in less often.”  These are the best face moisturizers to speed up your beauty routine Photo: Drunk Elephant Drunk Elephant Protini Polypeptide Moisturizer, $68 This moisturizer is like a protein-packed cocktail for your face. (Protini. Get it?) Complete with amino acids, signal peptides, and synthetic growth factors, it makes your skin feel firmer,

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