Your 3-step crash course in artfully extending an olive branch to an estranged friend

June 25, 2019 at 05:00AM by CWC I’ve been anticipating this whole Taylor Swift-Katy Perry reunion for literal years but I still can’t get over how offering a simple plate of cookies and literally extending an olive branch have been effective tools for reigniting a friendship previously plagued by “Bad Blood.” While having beef with peers, or really anyone in life, isn’t usually intentional, it happens. But whether because you simply miss their presence in your life, realize you’re not angry anymore, or some other life event forces you to take stock in what really matters, you may eventually decide you want to mend fences. Where and how to begin this process, though, is kind of murky—especially given the potential that the other person involved may totally ignore you. “Sadly, it’s becoming socially acceptable to ‘ghost’ people who you don’t want in your life,” says licensed psychologist Helene Brenner, PhD.  “It’s often rationalized as the ‘only’ option when, in fact, the ghoster is simply afraid of dealing with their own or someone else’s hurt, messy feelings.” ad_intervals[‘402228_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’] = setInterval(function () { if (ads_ready) { clearTimeout(ad_intervals[‘402228_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’]); googletag.cmd.push(function(){googletag.display(‘div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’);}); } }, 100); Well, “Band-Aids don’t fix bullet holes,” and all that 2014 noise, and if you bravely want to patch things up with a friend after an extended period of time, this is how you may want to go about it: 1. Take inventory of what happened, and how you feel about the possible outcomes “Reaching out when there’s been a falling out

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*This* is how often you should trim your hair, according to your texture

June 25, 2019 at 04:00AM by CWC Fact: Every time I sit down in my hairstylist’s chair, I find out that I’ve (once again) let too much time pass between trims. As a result, more of my length ends up being lopped off, and what started as a routine trim practically ends with a bob. Okay, perhaps I’m being dramatic, but so is my haircut due to all of the split, dried-out ends I’ve let go by the wayside. Depending on your hair type and how often you tend to color and heat-style it, how often you need to book regular trims tends to vary, which is why we asked Jeff Chastain, celebrity hairstylist and founder of MASC haircare, to clear things up once and for all. Keep reading to see how often you should trim your strands, broken down by hair type. Coily hair To keep coily and uber-tight curls at their best health, Chastain advises cutting hair every 10 to 12 weeks, and being very particular with how much is trimmed so as to not compromise the overall length. “I know if you cut even an eighth of an inch shorter, it can bounce up a full inch shorter. Where it actually pulls up and falls is different for everyone, so it’s good to start small,” he explains. “I try to be conservative with the length at first, then we can adjust from there. I’ll err on the side of having to cut the lengths twice so that they

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Summer has *finally* arrived—here’s how to stay fit in the hot, hot heat

June 25, 2019 at 03:00AM by CWC When temperatures climb and warmer weather draws nearer, it’s of course a happy occasion—hello outdoor workouts and cute sundresses and goodbye snow! However, that also means it gets more challenging to work out, whether you’re in a stuffy studio for your favorite class or going for a run outside in the sunshine. “Every time we work out, our body’s thermoregulation system kicks into gear. As we start to sweat, that is our body doing its due diligence to maintain a constant core temperature or a state of ‘homeostasis,’” explains Ally McKinney, a personal trainer at Gold’s Gym. “The better we are at regulating heat, the more effective we can be with our workouts,” she says. When pushing the body to its limits in intensity, and pairing that with a hot environment, it can be a whole lot to handle. To avoid using warmer temperatures as an excuse to not workout, it’s a good idea to get your body ready to handle the tougher climate and to more effectively stay cool and safe during those sweaty, sweaty workouts. Here, a few tips for prepping your body so you can keep up with your favorite exercises, despite those scorching days. ad_intervals[‘395369_div-gpt-ad-9261280-3’] = setInterval(function () { if (ads_ready) { clearTimeout(ad_intervals[‘395369_div-gpt-ad-9261280-3’]); googletag.cmd.push(function(){googletag.display(‘div-gpt-ad-9261280-3’);}); } }, 100); Start with some early a.m. runs To get used to doing outdoor workouts in the heat, it’s a good idea to be an early riser. “Early morning workouts are going to be

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Experts share exactly how many dates it takes to make a relationship—and you won’t like the answer

June 25, 2019 at 02:00AM by CWC DTRing (aka defining the relationship) was so much easier in middle school when all it took was passing a note and checking yes or no. As adults, it’s way more complicated. Are you in a relationship if you’ve been hanging out with someone every weekend for three months? If you have a toothbrush at their place? If you’ve met their family? And, perhaps more to the heart of the matter, how long does it take before you know if someone you’re casually dating is a good match for you long term? According to marriage and family therapist Racine Henry, PhD, and couples and sex therapist Corrin Voeller say there are a couple factors to consider. Here, they give their expert insight as to how long it takes to know if someone truly has relationship potential and how to know when you’ve officially crossed over from casual to defined relationship. Scroll down to find long it takes to know if someone you’re casually dating is right for you. Check in with your feelings Okay, first things first: There is no clear-cut answer to the question, “How many dates before a relationship?” Voeller and Dr. Henry agree there’s no magic number of dates or amount of time. “It’s not like all the sudden it’s date seven or three months have passed and that’s the time to figure it all out,” Dr. Henry says. ad_intervals[‘403391_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’] = setInterval(function () { if (ads_ready) { clearTimeout(ad_intervals[‘403391_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’]); googletag.cmd.push(function(){googletag.display(‘div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’);}); } },

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