There’s a psychological reason celebrity deaths hit us so hard

April 16, 2019 at 03:00AM by CWC Celebrity deaths happen often, and often unexpectedly, leaving fans who didn’t personally know the deceased in a confused cloud of grief. Because logically, it doesn’t seem to make a whole bunch of sense to feel sad about losing someone you didn’t actually know. Still, on March 4, when I learned that Luke Perry died at the too-young age of 52, a week after he suffered from a massive stroke, there I was, grieving my one-sided relationship with the ’90s heartthrob I knew first and foremost as Beverly Hills, 90210‘s brooding Dylan McKay. Well, it was me and countless other fans around the world, sharing their feelings, and reactions, and general anguish. But pros say this reaction to mourn a celebrity crush makes total sense, especially when the person was someone we admired who served us interactive art that could leave a memory imprint. Like, yep, TV stars we grew up watching (and daydreaming about) and musicians who soundtracked our seminal milestones. Our relationships with celebrities don’t necessarily follow typically understood measures of time and space, making them seem subconsciously immortal to us in a sense. They don’t age with us—they’re bound, time-machine-style, to the fictional characters who they play and whom we’ve became attached to. “They’re never supposed to die, and they’re always 25 in our heads,” says Seattle-based therapist and grief counselor Jill Gross, PsyD. “When they die a little part of us dies, too—our innocence dies with them.” Still, she says,

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Even if fake smiling can boost my mood, I don’t ever want to be asked to do it

April 15, 2019 at 03:00PM by CWC Ever heard that sage advice to “smile through the pain?” It offers the ethos of other similar platitudes like “put your big girl pants on” or “get back on the horse,” but apparently, when it comes to—wait for it—grinning and bearing it, there’s some science to support the trite saying. A recent paper published in Psychological Bulletin suggests that smiling, even if you’re faking it, will gift you a marginal, momentary mood boost. The meta-analysis of 138 studies on more than 11,000 people worldwide about facial expression and whether it influences emotions supports the notion that smiling makes people a smidge happier, while scowling and frowning makes them angrier and sadder, respectively. But, when perusing online reactions to this new finding, I saw an abundance of “Smiling is the Way to Happiness” headlines—which crystallized just one thought in my mind: Please don’t make me smile. I hate being told to smile. Anyone who’s ever fielded a catcall on their way to work (AKA a woman who breathes air) probably also hates being told to smile. We should feel how we want to feel, and internalizing emotions to turn a frown upside down tends to manifest destructive external effects. Need proof? A recent and unrelated buzzy study suggests faking a perma-smile while working in the service industry lead to boozing hard later on. Studies and their conclusions about positive micro-effects aside, I want to know if there’s really ever a time when a fake

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7 benefits of asparagus that prove it’s the best spring vegetable, period

April 15, 2019 at 02:00PM by CWC When we talk about superfoods, a few obvious contenders—walnuts, chia seeds, green tea, quinoa, kale—immediately come to mind. But it may be time to add one often-overlooked food to that list: asparagus. Maybe it was plopped on your plate as a kid at dinnertime (and if your parents didn’t do a good job of preparing it, forgive them!), or perhaps you started cooking it as an adult when you decided it was time to start eating more vegetables. In any case, this mighty green vegetable with its bristly, textured tops and woody stems deserves a lot more attention—because it’s actually really good for you. “Asparagus is a non-starchy vegetable that has a nice array of nutrients and fiber,” says Maya Feller, MS, RD, CDN of Maya Feller Nutrition. And that’s just the beginning of its benefits. Need proof? Here are some excellent benefits of asparagus that will send you out to the grocery store for an asparagus run ASAP. Check out the 7 benefits of asparagus that make it the best spring vegetable. 1. Asparagus is loaded with Vitamin K Vitamin K isn’t a vitamin that gets a lot of attention, but the fat-soluble vitamin has some amazing health benefits. “Vitamin K is involved in preventing blood clotting and improving bone health and heart health,” says Feller. Just a cup of raw asparagus comes with 56 micrograms of vitamin K, per the USDA—over half of your recommended daily intake (90 mcg) in one

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