Year: 2019

January 23, 2019 at 04:30AM by CWC When it comes to dating, anyone in the game has a line in the sand that, once broached, immediately triggers the relationship to implode. What I’m referring to, my friends, is a deal-breaker. It’s something you could never live with. And thanks in large part to the prevalence of online dating and apps that allow users to paint a specific picture of the ideal partner, these romantic impasses seem far more abundant these days. But perhaps we’re confusing general preferences with deal-breakers? After all, experts say those two are not the same thing at all. “I would define a deal-breaker as one or both people in a relationship reaching the point of no return,” says relationship counselor Rachel Sussman, LCSW. “Some deal-breakers I see [in my practice] are infidelity, relapse to drugs, alcohol, or other addiction once the person has gotten sober. I also have seen deal-breakers insofar as timelines for commitment.” So if you see yourself married in a year, and you S.O. doesn’t believe in marriage, that may be a deal-breaker for you. The problem comes when people incorrectly label preferences as deal-breakers, says sex and relationship expert Logan Levkoff, PhD. “People list things like height, eye color, and living situation as a deal-breaker. That can be extremely limiting. Think about all of the people you’re ignoring because they aren’t the ‘right’ height.” And while some folks may argue that “attraction is important,” and indeed it is, Dr. Levkoff and Sussman agree

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