March 12, 2019 at 08:00AM by CWC In the heat of the moment, tossing out an ultimatum to your boss, your partner, or even a restaurant manager after a decidedly awful experience might seem like the best if not only option. But, #realtalk: Are these my-way-or-the-highway brokerages ever really a good idea? Because after you get what you want and the dust settles, the result is likely not everything going back to a slightly elevated normal. So, why do we resort to ultimatums in the first place? “When we lack the skills to convey our needs in healthy ways, we often turn to control and demands to gain a false sense of security in a relationship,” says Gin Love Thompson, PhD, psychotherapist, relationship specialist, and author. “In general, ultimatums set a relationship up for future resentments.” And that applies no matter how big or small the ask is and whether or not it’s met. Beyond highlighting some lacking communication skills, a reliance on romantic-leaning ultimatums is also a reflection of the current dating environment, says licensed psychologist Mary Jo Rapini, a love and relationship expert. “In the dating world now, there is a lot of fakeness, and nobody really wants to commit to anything, so people forget they have to set boundaries,” she says. It’s true that boundaries are key in any type of relationship, because without them, it’s pretty easy to be taken advantage of. And if you’re not getting what you want from the relationship and find yourself giving more to
Category: 2019 Health
Wegmans proves cereal *can* be healthy with new protein-packed Coconut Flakes
March 12, 2019 at 07:58AM by CWC Let’s be real. Cereal isn’t something most adults really want to give up. Sure, it’s branded as more of a kids’ thing, but everyone knows a bowl of cereal satisfies at any age. While the eye-catching, artificially-colored and sugar-packed cereals in most aisles aren’t doing anyone any good, one company is here to prove that high protein cereal can be just as healthy and nutritious as other breakfast foods. A beloved family-owned supermarket chain, you’ll Wegmans sprinkled across the United States. The company recently shared its latest product on Instagram. Coconut Flakes are essentially a protein-packed spin on Frosted Flakes made with plant-based proteins and whole grains. Thanks to garbanzo beans, navy beans, and red lentils on the ingredients list, there’s actually 6 grams of protein per serving—aka as much as there is in a large egg. The cereal contains no artificial colors, flavors, or preservatives. View this post on Instagram Move over eggs, we’ve got a new protein option for breakfast! Made with plant-based proteins and whole grains, our new cereals are great for breakfast or any meal of the day. #healthybreakfast #wegmans A post shared by Wegmans Food Markets (@wegmans) on Mar 9, 2019 at 3:01am PST //www.instagram.com/embed.js While there is 10 grams of added sugar in the form of milled cane sugar, the servings sizes are bigger than most cereals at 1-1/4 cup compared to 3/4 cup in Frosted Flakes. And this isn’t the only healthier cereal option Wegmans is producing, either. The supermarket also
You shouldn’t have to choose between a potato and a sweet potato because they’re both good for you
March 12, 2019 at 07:09AM by CWC [youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3zYQBK7Nq18] The rivalry between sweet potatoes and their regular potato cousins has never been greater (we’re talking Sharks versus Jets level stuff here). As people ditch white potatoes for their sweet orange counterparts in the name of more fiber and better health, it’s easy for any spud lover to wonder which camp to choose. Luckily for you, nutritionist (and pun master) Tracy Lockwood Beckerman, RD, tackles this very debate in the latest episode of You vs. Food (Well+Good’s video series unpacking all things food and nutrition). Here are some of the mind-blowing revelations she offers up: Sweet potatoes and yams are NOT the same thing. Sweet potatoes have more vitamin A and are lower in calories. They also taste sweeter. Yams, however, have more potassium and fiber. Sweet potatoes can also help stabilize blood sugar levels because they’re a low to medium glycemic index food (meaning that its carbs and sugars don’t affect your blood sugar levels as much as, say, pasta or ice cream). To get the most out of that benefit, Beckerman suggests eating sweet potatoes with healthy fats like ghee, nuts, or avocado. Iron is absorbed better by the body when eaten with vitamin C. Guess which food has both at once? Yup, the sweet potato. White potatoes may have less fiber than sweet potatoes, but they’re generally more fibrous than other starches, Beckerman says. They’re also packed with potassium, which can help lower blood pressure, she says. You won’t get
The fragrance rules to memorize, according to perfumers
March 12, 2019 at 07:00AM by CWC More than arguably any other step in your beauty routine, there’s something about applying perfume that makes you feel equal parts sensual and luxurious. After all, there’s a reason why all Marilyn Monroe wore to bed was Chanel No. 5, and why the chase of a “signature scent” is a life-altering pursuit. Coco Chanel herself actually may have put it best: “No elegance is possible without perfume. It is the unseen, unforgettable, ultimate accessory.” Whether you’re one of those people who, like me, can’t leave the house without walking through a cloud of fragrance—more specifically, a cloud of Glossier You ($60), ICYWW—or if you just dab a roller ball on your wrist in honor of special occasions, your scent has the potential to speak volumes about you. As perfumer Maurice Roucel once said, “Your fragrance is your message, your scented slogan.” (Can you tell I went down a black hole of perfume quotes while researching this story?) But while fragrance can be one of the most personal beauty choices you can make, there are a few things worth knowing about the “right” way to wear it. To find out, I tapped some of the top pros in the industry to share their tips on how to wear perfume. Keep scrolling for their sound advice. Think about the scents themselves All scents are (obviously) not created equally, which means that the way you apply them actually depends on the scents themselves. “Fragrances that are from the aldehydes,
You can use Trader Joe’s Chunky Salsa (yes, salsa) to make the easiest vegan soup ever
March 12, 2019 at 06:57AM by CWC You know a recipe is damn good when you return to it more than once. We live in the era of Pinterest, where a few clicks of the keyboard reveals approximately 100 billion recipes for cauliflower gnocchi. So there’s really no need to revisit any one dish. And yet, I have made Dana Shultz of the Minimalist Baker’s five-ingredient black bean chili approximately 10 times. The recipe typifies the unbeatable combination of coziness and ease. And oh—did I mention its primary ingredient is Trader Joe’s salsa? In retrospect, it’s strikingly obvious that salsa could work as a soup base. It’s packed with veggies already diced down to bite-sized morsels that are ready to be thrown straight into a pan. Until Schultz suggested though, I’d never considered that the party staple possessed a dual purpose (a double-life outside of dunking). Better yet, even thought the recipe boasts it only has five ingredients total, you’re really scoring a nutrient-dense bonus of tomatoes, peppers, and onions. In retrospect, it’s strikingly obvious that salsa could work as a soup base. It’s packed with veggies already diced down to bite-sized morsels that are ready to be thrown straight into a pan. Now that the vegan blogger has opened my eyes to the versatility of salsa, I use it as a soup starter every chance I get. Since the mix is loaded with spices like paprika and oregano, you wouldn’t put it in something like an Italian wedding soup or classic
We found the sneakers to invest in if your a HIIT devotee
March 12, 2019 at 05:00AM by CWC To borrow a line from Seinfeld: “What is the deal with split sole sneakers?” While the design looks a lot like it’s there just to make your kicks look more fashion forward or sculptural, split-soled sneakers actually borrow their structure from dance shoes and are meant to take your HIIT workouts up a notch. Case in point: When I tried a pair myself, I could quickly tell that I was more in control of my own foot during a HIIT class. I had a wider range of motion (good for all those high-knees and burpees), but I also didn’t have to sacrifice any stability to the ground. Even when I was moving side-to-side, I was very aware that the gap between the front and back soles enhanced my agility while doing lateral motions. In other words: I quite liked them. And I’m not alone. Since I laced up my first pair, I’ve seen them all over the place, including at Rumble, where my instructor Jeremiah Maestre was working out in a pair of Reebok Sole Furys ($90). When I asked him why he was a split-sole convert, he had a lot to relay about why they’re a good pair for your next workout. Here’s what to know. How to use split-sole sneakers to up your workout They are multifaceted: When looking for a versatile shoe, Maestre wanted his sneakers to help with his movement, while also providing stability, and that wasn’t something he was able to find before
How to generate passive income online, so you can literally make money in your sleep
March 12, 2019 at 04:00AM by CWC No matter how you finance your life (traditional full-time gig, odd jobs to make a burgeoning side hustle work, entrepreneur, or something else), it’s possible to wake up to more earnings after a night of doing nothing but dreaming about it. All you have to do is share your passion. Also known as passive income, the money earned while you sleep can cultivate a sense of freedom, empowerment, and opportunity. You can enjoy freedom to save, spend, or travel; feel empowerment in your unique expertise and knowledge that you can create even more; and then there’s the opportunity to share your intel with others. And in the online space especially, passive-income opportunities abound. Think: e-books, online courses, and membership sites. These options require work in the beginning stages, but after laying the groundwork, they allow for content that can forever generate income without you really needing to lift a finger or click a mouse. Below are steps to get you started 4 steps for setting up a passive income—so you can literally make money in your sleep. 1. Identify areas in which you’re an expert and niche audiences you can serve You have a unique set of skills that makes you an expert in something—you just have to be able to identify them. What is that people love to reach out to you about? Perhaps its your amazing plant-lady skills, or your crunching-number talents, or your baking chops. Something that comes more easily for
We asked, you answered: These are the best travel hacks for your next flight
March 12, 2019 at 03:00AM by CWC All it takes is simple trick to completely change your travel experience for the better. Need proof? I learned how to make my own frothy matcha latte with a shaker bottle instead of buying one at the airport and I’ve saved a small fortune. But the ability to DIY your own wellness beverage on the go is just the beginning. We asked Well+Good readers to share their favorite travel hacks on Instagram and got some great responses. Sure, bringing your own wipes for a germ-free flight is always a good idea, but so is packing an oversized scarf and powdered fruit. (Who knew?) These are all the tricks and tips you should know before your next vacation. 7 travel hacks that’ll change the way you see the world View this post on Instagram Let's talk #travel! What’s the best travel tip or hack you’ve learned to stay healthy on the go? Leave it below then read through the comments… you may get an idea to try on your next trip! #iamwellandgood #wellandgoodtravels #travel #traveler #regramlove @kaleintheclouds A post shared by Well+Good (@iamwellandgood) on Mar 7, 2019 at 12:46pm PST //www.instagram.com/embed.js 1. Bring a big, cozy scarf “Bring a big, cozy scarf to use as a pillow or blanket—or as a face guard from random plane smells! Also, bring a banana to help with swelling during the flight.” —@erinmathen 2. Pack powdered fruits and a travel blender for smoothies “Pack a travel blender and powdered fruits, like
Lindy West gets “Shrill” about bathing suits and toxic bosses—and promises to only get louder
March 11, 2019 at 04:30PM by CWC Feminist journalist and author Lindy West has detailed her life on the internet, in print, and—starting Friday, March 15—onscreen. Shrill, the forthcoming, six episode Hulu comedy series, is based on West’s experiences via her best-selling 2016 memoir of the same name. In the show, Aidy Bryant stars as Annie, the West-inspired character who’s a writer at paper in Portland, Oregon, navigating a symphony of series issues like abortion, body acceptance, a toxic boss, internet trolls, and more—all with the lithe gravitas HBO’s Girls often missed the mark on a handful of years ago. I caught up with West (who is an executive producer—alongside Elizabeth Banks, Lorne Michaels, and others—and writer on the show) before Shrill hit the streaming service to talk about pool parties, sticking up for yourself at work, and what it means to reclaim negative terms. Spoiler alert: If you call her shrill, she takes it as high praise. View this post on Instagram 4:22 am, wrapped A post shared by Lindy West (@thelindywest) on Sep 15, 2018 at 4:26am PDT //www.instagram.com/embed.js On taking a literal plunge into body positivity In the fourth episode, Annie attends a body-positive pool party to write about it for work. “That episode is pivotal,” West tells me. Annie has an a-ha moment of personal acceptance spawned from being among fat women in bikinis, on pool floats, thrilled to be in their skin. In the first few episodes of Shrill, Annie starts “to have inklings that
It’s a myth that you need to find a mentor to get ahead at work—here’s why
March 11, 2019 at 12:46PM by CWC All the job opportunities and institutional knowledge you could ever need will suddenly be revealed to you, you think, if only you could find a mentor. Ehhh, not so fast. In this week’s Good@Work column, all-around boss Amy Odell—whom you may know as the former editor (AKA HBIC) of Cosmopolitan.com and founding blogger of New York magazine’s The Cut—shares why, when it comes to career advice, mentorship might be the biggest myth out there. Question: I love my boss and my job, but feel I would really gain insight from having a more senior person in my industry as my mentor outside my company. Do you have any recommendations on how to find someone? Answer: The idea that you need a work mentor, that your professional life will be somehow stifled or unfulfilled without an older, allegedly wiser person waiting in the wings for whenever you think you need advice, is a load of crap. I understand why you and many other young professionals (particularly women) feel this way. The idea that you Need a Mentor like you Need an Annual Physical is drilled into your brain by cliché’d “boss babe” books written by professional personalities who don’t know what work is actually like and random articles you find when you Google “how to negotiate for a raise,” also probably written by people who don’t know what work is actually like. Or maybe you got this idea from your career services department at school, which would be of better service to