August 30, 2019 at 02:00PM by CWC The Netflix film Otherhood follows three empty-nester mothers (played by Felicity Huffman, Angela Bassett, and Patricia Arquette), who decide to invade the lives of their neglectful grown sons under the guise of being helpful. The ill-fated plan of the overbearing parents eventually leads each woman to realize what she needs more desperately than attention from her child is to form an identity outside of motherhood—both for the good of herself and her child. Though none of the three sons in the film attended therapy as a method for handling stress and feelings associated with events related to their…intrusive mothers, based on what two pros tell me, it seems like the very topic that comes up most often when clients discuss their parents in sessions. “Common conversations I have with clients about their relationship with their parents revolve around having overbearing or ‘helicopter’ parents and having difficulty creating boundaries with them,” says counselor Liz Higgins, LMFT and founder of Millennial Life Counseling in Dallas. ad_intervals[‘411373_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’] = setInterval(function () { if (ads_ready) { clearTimeout(ad_intervals[‘411373_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’]); googletag.cmd.push(function(){googletag.display(‘div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’);}); } }, 100); This often happens as a result of people needing to develop the capacity to rely on themselves early in adulthood, and trying to detach from parents to some degree, says Portland, Oregon-based psychotherapist Satya Doyle Byock, LPC. Parents who are overbearing or even simply too available make this separation incredibly difficult, and as a result, some people, especially generations that are currently navigating the earlier stages of
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A dress rehearsal isn’t just for the stage—here’s what to do before a big change in your life
August 29, 2019 at 10:18PM by CWC In sixth grade, I begged my mom to buy me a laser pointer at Staples. Overnight, I become the best presenter among my peers. Not because the super-cool tool elevated my social status (it didn’t), but because the pointer made me want to rehearse my assignments beforehand. Middle school me was onto something. Recently, the The New York Times parenting section covered the anxiety-reducing results of giving a preschooler a dress rehearsal before the first day of school. But you don’t have to be between the ages of 5 and 13 to benefit from practicing major life moments. A career expert says the tactic works in every stage of life. “Our brains are very capable of handling a lot, but if you want to enjoy and to be productive in the experience, it really helps you brain to have less to focus on,” says Maggie Mistal, a career coach in New York City. The less we humans prepare ahead of time for something, the more “attention residue” we carry with us from moment to moment, says Mistal. The name for the plight is pretty self-explanatory, but the coach describes it as what happens when we shift our attention to quickly from one moment to the next. The lack of transition means that whatever happened five minutes ago might still be holding onto your attention, which doesn’t exactly grant you “presence.” Rehearsing is the anecdote. ad_intervals[‘419407_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’] = setInterval(function () { if (ads_ready) { clearTimeout(ad_intervals[‘419407_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’]); googletag.cmd.push(function(){googletag.display(‘div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’);}); }
Who said seaweed was just for sushi? Here’s why the ingredient is about to blow up
August 29, 2019 at 04:30AM by CWC Ever have a flashback to when kale wasn’t cool (#tbt)? Well, there’s a new crew of superfoods about to hit your plates and IG feeds. We teamed up with Ocean Spray to clue you in on the trends. Learn about all six craze-worthy foods here, and keep reading to find out why the benefits of seaweed make it legit. Not to diss your sushi roll of choice, but seaweed is more than just an edible device that holds your takeout order together. The insanely versatile vegetable (okay, technically, marine algae), has moved beyond the delivery container to pop up everywhere. The ingredient was peeped all over the healthy snacks our editors checked out at Natural Products Expo West, which gives a preview of what’s coming down the pipeline—and can now be found in the snack aisle at local New York City bodegas, the shelves of Trader Joe’s, and Amazon’s five-star snack reviews. ad_intervals[‘413261_div-gpt-ad-8891272-3’] = setInterval(function () { if (ads_ready) { clearTimeout(ad_intervals[‘413261_div-gpt-ad-8891272-3’]); googletag.cmd.push(function(){googletag.display(‘div-gpt-ad-8891272-3’);}); } }, 100); So why is something you normally see at the beach suddenly having such a moment in the food sphere? Find out how the good-for-you benefits and buzz are pushing seaweed to the next level below. Keep scrolling for a look at the benefits of seaweed and how you can start snacking on it ASAP. Benefits of seaweed Besides getting stuck to your leg when you’ve been chilling in the ocean for awhile (don’t you hate when that happens?),
Move over quinoa—Buckwheat is the new it-grain taking over menus everywhere
August 29, 2019 at 04:30AM by CWC Ever have a flashback to when kale wasn’t cool (#tbt)? Well, there’s a new crew of superfoods about to hit your plates and IG feeds. We teamed up with Ocean Spray to clue you in on the trends. Learn about all six craze-worthy foods here, and keep reading to find out why the health benefits of buckwheat earned it a spot. “Overnight buckwheaties” may not sound as catchy as overnight oats, but take this into consideration: Buckwheat is loaded with nutrition benefits, it’s super easy to prepare, and it’s the rising star of the grain-but-not-actually-a-grain world. (It’s technically a seed, or “pseudo-cereal,” like quinoa.) And, like quinoa, the nutty-flavored groats are becoming a go-to healthy buddha bowl base (thanks in part to their knockout protein content) and giving the OG supergrain a run for its money. ad_intervals[‘414685_div-gpt-ad-8891272-3’] = setInterval(function () { if (ads_ready) { clearTimeout(ad_intervals[‘414685_div-gpt-ad-8891272-3’]); googletag.cmd.push(function(){googletag.display(‘div-gpt-ad-8891272-3’);}); } }, 100); Plus, despite its moniker, buckwheat doesn’t actually contain any actual wheat, making it a safe choice for Celiacs or people choosing to follow a gluten-free lifestyle. Here’s why you’ll want to consider scouring the #buckwheat feed on Instagram and adding the superfood to your grocery list. Keep scrolling to discover the health benefits of buckwheat, plus all the ways you can start eating it. Benefits You’re likely to find buckwheat taking one of two forms: Buckwheat groats are the hulled seeds from the plant, while buckwheat flour is ground from the seed hulls. In both forms, it’s anti-inflammatory and high
10 genius storage ideas for small spaces to maximize your ‘cozy’ home
August 29, 2019 at 02:00AM by CWC When you call New York City home, personal space is a very (and, I mean, very) limited resource. Even if you pay big money for extra square footage, you’ll more than likely still find yourself flipping a coin to decide whether you should keep your desk or dresser. So getting creative with what goes where, and Googling all the storage ideas for small spaces is as necessary as, say, buying renters’ insurance. Clean My Space blogger Melissa Maker knows that making your small space work in a big way starts with the right mindset. “Think unconventionally about the space that you have. When you look at a room through an economizing lens, that’s when you start to get creative,” she says. If you view the project before you as a total drag, that’s exactly how it will feel. Instead, Maker recommends seeing your limited room as an opportunity to really, really consider which belongings add to your life. And which are just, well, clutter. ad_intervals[‘419011_div-gpt-ad-5443410-3’] = setInterval(function () { if (ads_ready) { clearTimeout(ad_intervals[‘419011_div-gpt-ad-5443410-3’]); googletag.cmd.push(function(){googletag.display(‘div-gpt-ad-5443410-3’);}); } }, 100); Whether your teeny-tiny abode is located in the Big Apple or elsewhere, home organization experts share 10 must-know ways to make your small space work in big ways. So grab a notepad and start jotting down ideas for making the very most of every last inch of your shoebox apartment/tiny home/pool house. 1. Set your focus on multifunctional decor “I love multi-functional furniture pieces and accessories that help
7 questions to ask yourself when ‘toxic monogamy’ is affecting your relationship
August 28, 2019 at 02:00PM by CWC In our society, monogamy is the ideal to which all relationships are meant to aspire. We throw expensive parties to celebrate those who commit to it—and have made these commitments an all but mandatory milestone for those who wish to belong to mainstream culture—while vilifying people who cheat on their partners or otherwise diminish the esteemed institution. With all this veneration, monogamy has become a bit smug as a concept; it, and the people who perform it, are healthy. Full stop. A recent Instagram post by Philadelphia-based couples therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, however, challenges the notion that monogamy is unimpeachable. Earnshaw calls out the signs and symptoms of what she terms “toxic monogamy.” She writes: “There are many underlying beliefs about monogamy and what it should look like that can cause harm to a relationship.” View this post on Instagram Toxic monogamy – what is it? . There are many underlying beliefs about monogamy and what it should look like that can cause harm to a relationship. . The belief that your partner is your be all and end all and that you will be theirs sets a relationship up for disappointment at least and toxicity at worst. . There has never been a time we’ve expected so much from our partners. Historically, they provided us children, a place to live, financial stability. It was an arrangement. . Now, it’s a choice. A choice based on love, shared values, friendship, fun, sexual connection,
The 10 skin-care products Well+Good readers love the most
August 28, 2019 at 01:00PM by CWC The term “holy grail” gets thrown around a lot when it comes to beauty products, to the point that it can feel like it’s lost its meaning. So as an editor, I rarely (read: never) use it to describe something I’m recommending, no matter how great that “something” happens to be. But when our team put together a list of the top skin-care products that Well+Good readers are buying, I finally found a reason worthy of using it—because “holy grail” is truly the only word that can describe these ten A+ offerings. Not only are they the products that professionals have recommended to us time and time again, but many of them also happen to be routine staples for Well+Good beauty editors. So with those two stamps of approval—plus the fact that our readers love them too—you just know that they’ve gotta be really, really good. Scroll through to see the 10 beauty products that Well+Good’s readers can’t get enough of. And considering they seem to love skin care just as much as we on staff do, consider these recommendations truly worth taking. ad_intervals[‘418520_div-gpt-ad-7520022-3’] = setInterval(function () { if (ads_ready) { clearTimeout(ad_intervals[‘418520_div-gpt-ad-7520022-3’]); googletag.cmd.push(function(){googletag.display(‘div-gpt-ad-7520022-3’);}); } }, 100); Photo: SkinMedica SkinMedica Retinol 0.25 Complex ($62) It’s pretty cool that you can get derm-worthy products without actually having to go to the derm (or leave your bed), huh? This medical-grade retinol is available on Amazon, which means it can be at your door—and on your face—in
Everything you need to know about sleeping safe and soundly while pregnant
August 28, 2019 at 02:00AM by CWC The day I found out I was pregnant was also the day I stopped sleeping on my stomach. I was a mere four weeks into my pregnancy (exciting! terrifying!), according to the three apps I immediately downloaded, and my baby was the size of a poppyseed. But still, I told myself, I should probably stop sleeping on my stomach, because that can’t be the best (or even a recommended) sleeping position in pregnancy, right? In fact, “when to stop sleeping on stomach” became one of my most-googled phrases for the first, oh, 22 weeks of my pregnancy. Other searches giving my browser a workout for the duration of my 39-week adventure included “pregnancy + crazy dreams,” “pregnancy + insane dreams,” “pregnancy + leg cramps during sleep,” “does labor hurt more than pregnancy leg cramps during sleep?” and “best pregnancy pillows.” As you may have surmised by this point, I was having trouble sleeping—and I was confused as to why. That confusion was due in large part to my previous 33 years of being a relatively good sleeper. Most nights I’d fall asleep within 10 minutes of closing my eyes, and I’d stay soundly asleep until sometime around sunrise. But during pregnancy, even the notion of my formerly very real dreams transformed into not much more than mere pipe dreams. ad_intervals[‘414629_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’] = setInterval(function () { if (ads_ready) { clearTimeout(ad_intervals[‘414629_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’]); googletag.cmd.push(function(){googletag.display(‘div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’);}); } }, 100); Experts say there are many snooze-compromising components beyond the best sleeping
The sneaky foods that could be making your BMs super smelly
August 28, 2019 at 01:00AM by CWC Here’s a fun conversation starter (or ender) for you to whip out the next time you’re on a bad date: Poop is not actually supposed to smell bad. While poop has its own…special aroma, it’s not supposed to stink so badly that you regret even having the ability to smell. If it does, that can have some implications for your health. “What [usually] causes stinky smelling poops is when a person has a hard time absorbing all the nutrition from the food before it comes out,” says Brigitte Zeitlin, RD, founder of BZ Nutrition in New York City. This is known as malabsorption, she says, and it’s often caused by gut issues like Crohn’s and colitis. However, if this doesn’t apply to you and yet you’re consistently stinking up your bathroom, check in with what you’re eating. There are certain healthy foods—particularly foods high in sulfur—that can make your BMs smell super bad, Zeitlin says. (Other common stink-inducing foods include lactose, alcohol, and sugar alcohols.) ad_intervals[‘418760_div-gpt-ad-8891272-3’] = setInterval(function () { if (ads_ready) { clearTimeout(ad_intervals[‘418760_div-gpt-ad-8891272-3’]); googletag.cmd.push(function(){googletag.display(‘div-gpt-ad-8891272-3’);}); } }, 100); It’s important to mention up-front that sulfur is not inherently bad. It’s a common element that your body needs to produce the antioxidant glutathione as well as support blood and digestive function. It’s also great for your skin and hair, Zeitlin says. “Adding in sulfur-rich foods has been shown to help fight acne and reduce other skin issues like rosascea and dry, scaly skin patches.
Are you performing too much ‘other care’? Here’s how to tell
August 28, 2019 at 12:01AM by CWC When you place your care in someone else’s hands, you may not take stock of the energy required on their end. In 2019, self care that’s nurturing—not performative—is on the rise, but for those whose primary job is caring for the health and wellness of others, “other care”—working with the express purpose of bettering the lives of others—can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, people like nurses, body work specialists, and teachers recognize helping people as their calling. Help requires energy, however. A social resource that—when given out too freely—can be a one-way ticket to burnout. Officially recognized burnout as a medical condition by The World Health Organization (WHO) earlier this summer, burnout is defined as “a syndrome conceptualized as resulting from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed.” A survey conducted by Medscape found that nearly 44 percent of U.S. physicians are burned out, and nearly 10 million unpaid caregivers deal with the very same thing. Kelsey Patel, a Reiki master, wellness expert, and Well+Good council member, says she herself has felt the pull to aid others hamper her ability to take care of herself. Which is why, now more than ever, she believes it’s so important to recognize when other care is eclipsing your own health. ad_intervals[‘418646_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’] = setInterval(function () { if (ads_ready) { clearTimeout(ad_intervals[‘418646_div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’]); googletag.cmd.push(function(){googletag.display(‘div-gpt-ad-7435403-3’);}); } }, 100); “There’s this idea [in a caregiving scenario] that ‘I’m the one in pain and you’re going to help, assist,