September 16, 2019 at 02:00PM by CWC Every relationship comes with a unique set of challenges. (What, you thought romance was easy?) Add a mental health condition into the mix, and things can feel a lot more complicated. If you’re married to or dating someone with ADHD (attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, which can present in different ways and is the clinical term for what’s often called ADD) you may find that you feel ignored, neglected, and frustrated, Erin Nicole McGinnis, LMFT, says. (In addition to being a psychotherapist, McGinnis has ADD and has been in relationships with people with ADD—which is all to say, she is uniquely qualified to speak on this topic.) “People with [ADHD] can be very attentive one minute, and then not follow through the next. The partner can often feel like they aren’t cared about, filling in the blanks and making assumptions that aren’t true,” McGinnis says. ADHD—which, according to Children and Adults with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (CHADD), affects an estimated 10 million adults—can manifest as hyperactivity or inattentiveness, McGinnis says. If the person with ADHD is hyperactive, it often shows as fidgeting, impulsiveness, and talkativeness. If they’re inattentive, it looks like daydreaming and spacing out, McGinnis says. “Both [presentations] have an inability to stay on task. They have a problem starting a task and finishing it. They also have a problem staying focused…[and] lose things frequently, which can make it very frustrating for their partners.” She explains that to have a functional relationship, you need to be able to complete
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Dr. Pimple Popper’s cleansing trick turns her cleanser into an acne-fighting peel
September 13, 2019 at 09:15PM by CWC Dr. Pimple Popper (AKA dermatologist Sandra Lee, MD) once told me that salicylic acid was her favorite skin-care ingredient. So the first thing I did was go out and buy a salicylic acid cleanser—not unlike the time that Regina George wore cargo pants and flip flops, so I wore cargo pants and flip flops. Well, recently, Dr. Pimple Popper doubled down with an entirely new way to use this powerful cleanser: by turning it into a peel. While using a salicylic acid cleanser the old-fashioned, lather-and-rinse way is great, Dr. Pimple Popper’s easy hack makes it even more effective, especially if you’re looking to quash breakouts. “The trick with salicylic acid is that you can actually leave it on your face for a couple of minutes if you want it to, and that can help increase the penetrance of it,” she says in a new video for Harper’s Bazaar that features her nighttime skin routine. Letting it sit for a little while on your face gives the actives a chance to really get down and dirty into your pores, allowing for a full excavation of dirt and grime when you finally do decide to wash it off. For a refresher, salicylic acid is “really great because it’s an exfoliant, so it’s going to get rid of those dry, dull dead skin cells on the surface of your skin so that your skin is more radiant,” she explains. “It’s going settle down within your pores,
The 5 worst shoes for your feet that *aren’t* high heels, according to a podiatrist
September 13, 2019 at 09:08PM by CWC I used to wear heels almost every day, until things like bills and meal prep and burnout became my real life. And while I’ve always known that heels are among the worst shoes for your feet (something to save for very special occasions), apparently there are a few less obvious choices that podiatrists don’t recommend either. For the sake of your feet, Miguel Cunha, DPM, founder of Gotham Footcare, would like you to stay away from five specific shoe styles. What better way to usher in Sad Girl Fall (is that what we’re calling it?) than with a list of things you can’t have? It’s a mood. The worst shoes for your feet, according to a foot doctor 1. Slides Dr. Cunha says to avoid slide shoes that are completely flat, because they don’t give your feet any support and can lead to “pronation and collapse of the arch”—which can lead to other bad things like shin splints, knee pain, and back pain. If you do wear a slide, he recommends choosing one with a wedge that’s 3/4-inch tall because it will place less tension on your Achilles heel. 2. Sock sneakers TBH I am not mad to see sock sneakers make this list, because I am not a fan. Basically, sock sneakers may feel super comfy but, according to Dr. Cunha, “they are not advisable shoes because they provide no support to the top and outside of your foot which can easily
Running in the rain is an inevitable part of training—here’s how to keep it comfy
September 13, 2019 at 02:30PM by CWC I’ll use just about any excuse not to go for run: “The air quality isn’t great today.” “My allergies are acting up.” “My cats will miss me too much.” So, I am definitely not one to lace up my trainers when the skies open up and let it rain; however, I recognize that not all humans are as motivationally-challenged as I am (and that goes double for those who have 20-milers penned on their calendars for the very near future). As fall and winter begin to bring their delightfully damp days, marathon training halts for no one. Because, you know: runner’s gotta run. If you’re one of these said runners, I’d like to, at the very least, help keep you as comfortable as possible (in part because I need to engender favor with fit individuals who can help me survive the dystopian future; in part because running while feeling soppy can feel daunting). You’ll need some sort of a hat, a windbreaker, moisture-wicking lower-body clothing, and, of course, the right shoes. (P.S., running shoes are different than training shoes—did you know?) Below I’ve compiled some options, including the official New Balance windbreaker of the TCS Marathon, which is making its internet debut today, that can help to keep you dry and moving forward. While temps are certainly about to dip, none of this gear is meant to keep you particularly warm (aside perhaps from the vest), so you can add layers and take
6 signs someone is in love with you, based on body language alone
September 13, 2019 at 02:00AM by CWC The early stages of a romantic relationship holds tons of excitement and potential energy; you’re learning new things about your new partner, settling into new routines, and figuring out your feelings. At a certain point, though, you’ll probably be ready to say those three magic words, but you’re nervous about uttering them first for fear that you won’t hear them in return, or—worse—that your partner won’t share your sentiment. Because picking up on signs someone is in love with you isn’t a science or easy to do with any semblance of confidence, the act of saying it can feel like a game of chicken—but that doesn’t have to be the case. Relationship coach and founder of Spark Matchmaking Michelle Fraley says learning to read your partner’s body language can be key for deciphering whether they’ve fallen for you. “Nonverbals are a big part of healthy and loving communication,” she says. Below are six body-language signs someone is in love with you, even if they have yet to say it. Look out for these 6 body language signs someone is in love with you, regardless of whether they’ve said the words. 1. Proximity If someone is in love, they’ll close the gap between you as often as they can. According to Fraley, you’ll want to consider the following four questions: Do they make an effort to get closer to me? Do they inch closer to me while seated? Do they place objects, like their
This is the exercise NASA astronauts do when they get back from space to recover
September 12, 2019 at 11:01PM by CWC List out all of the different types of exercises in the world, and you’d be hard pressed to find one more fun than a rebounder workout. After all, the entire premise is basically just jumping on a trampoline—the way you used to back in third grade—with some choreography mixed in. Rebounding has been around since the early eighties, but has risen in popularity lately thanks to a number of studios like New York City’s The Ness and Los Angeles’s LEKFit integrating trampoline workouts into their class offerings. And for good reason. There are a whole lot of benefits of rebounding (aside from it being one of the most enjoyable ways to break a sweat). Seriously—a study out of NASA in the eighties (this is when these types of workouts first became popular) found that jumping on a trampoline can give you a full-body workout without the impact and pressure on your ankles and knees that you might get from running on a treadmill. They dubbed it an effective way for astronauts to recover and regain bone and muscle mass after returning from space, and needless to say, if it’s good enough for astronauts, I’ll be all over it. Want to do the same? Here are the benefits and how to incorporate a routine into your sweat mix. The benefits of rebounding It gets your heart pumping: The most obvious benefits of rebounding have to do with your cardiovascular system. If you remember anything
Friday the 13th: Astrologically speaking, should we brace ourselves for bad luck?
September 12, 2019 at 10:49PM by CWC When I pulled up my calendar today to see my schedule, it dawned on me that Friday the 13th approaches. To get ahead of the bad luck this date seems to promise, I decided to ask an astrologist if there was any significance. (In true Piscean fashion, I was also looking for a way to be the victim instead of take responsibility for my actions should anything go haywire.) Turns out Friday the 13th is a little misunderstood, and it’s not quite the doomsday it’s been made out to be. Astrologically speaking, September 13, 2019 is significant in that it “only coincides with a Full Moon around every 20 years,” says astrologer Amy Tripp. The next full moon on Friday the 13th won’t happen until 2049. “It’s superstitious significance has roots in Christianity, as Judas was the 13th guest at the Last Supper and the crucifixion of Jesus occurred on a Friday,” Tripp says. Also, hey, in tarot 13 is the Death card, she notes. “Though we have superstitions surrounding Friday the 13th and other ones about full moons, there is no direct astrological significance of these two things happening together,” intuitive healer and astrologer Rachel Lang adds. But astrologically speaking, “the energies up during this time can be quite intense,” she says. “The planets Jupiter, Neptune, and Mars are all involved, in addition to the Sun and Moon. This could mean a perfect blend of mixed emotions, heightened awareness about life circumstances,
8 trainers share the best moves for working your obliques—and there’s not a side plank in sight
September 12, 2019 at 05:52PM by CWC There are so many exercises you can use to work your core. Crunches, sit-ups, leg raises… the list is never-ending. Located on the sides of the abdominals muscles, the obliques can be particularly tricky to isolate. And since no one wants to do side planks for the rest of their life, I asked a crew of top trainers to lend some advice. If you want super-strong abs, you need to target the internal and external obliques to help you bend and twist, support your back, and keep your posture in check. The best oblique exercises, according to top trainers 1. Oblique marches “Oblique marches not only fire up your obliques. The total-body move also challenges your balance and recruits other muscles as well.” —Gerren Liles, Hyperwear athlete and Equinox master trainer How to do it: Hold one medium or heavy dumbbell in your right hand, with elbows locked, and the weight about a hand-length away from your hip. Start to march in place, driving your knees up to hip level, without allowing your center of gravity to shift as you’re raising your legs. Stay as upright as possible. March for about 30 to 45 secs and then switch sides. Repeat for 3 to 5 sets. 2. Pallof press “The Pallof press is not just one of my favorite oblique exercises, but it’s one of the best exercises for the core, period. This movement targets overall core stability and also activates the glutes and
What your doodles say about your personality (besides ‘I can’t draw’)
September 11, 2019 at 06:31PM by CWC During my yoga teacher training, I was enthralled with the “Om” symbol, my one and only doodling muse. I drew it everywhere—in the margins of my notebooks, on my hands, in the sand at the beach—but I never stopped to think too much about the motivation behind such a repetitious act. That is, until graphologist Tracey Russell explained how to decode the meaning of doodles and what each style says about your personality. “Doodling is proactive daydreaming, produced casually and unconsciously—often on auto-pilot—whilst the writer is busy focusing on something else at the same time,” says the handwriting expert. “Doodles are not intended for any particular recipient. This means that doodles are the complete free-flow of uninhibited symbols, ‘live and direct’ from the subconscious.” Each doodle is like a secret map to your psyche. While most will begin with basic, universal shapes like a circles, squares, and triangles, how they evolve from there can paint a pretty interesting picture of the goings-on between your ears. “For example, drawings may consist of single objects, mini scenes, childlike scribbles, shapes or even complex patterns,” says Russell. They may be precise or slapdash, big and invasive, or small and insignificant. Many are repetitive but rarely look like works of art.” At the end of the day, how you draw is as unique to you as your fingerprint or eye color. That said, Russell does have a few ideas for what certain doodling habits may say about
I tried J. Lo’s Hustlers pole dancing workout, and I’ve never felt sexier or stronger
September 10, 2019 at 08:02PM by CWC As a fitness editor who spends a significant portion of her time either working out, thinking about working out, or writing about working out, there’s always something intimidating about walking into a class that I’ve never tried before. Multiply that by 10,000 when that class is pole dancing…with Jennifer Lopez‘s trainer from Hustlers…surrounded by work colleagues. I spent two full days stressing out about what to wear. I emailed a publicist, texted three friends who had taken pole dancing classes before, and posed the question to my entire office. “Don’t stress!” the publicist assured me, but even so, I strongly considered sipping a pre-workout glass of wine to take the edge off. When I walked in wearing my usual black sports-top-and-leggings combo and saw a woman in leopard booty shorts and a lacy tank top, I immediately felt like I’d made a mistake, both in showing up and in deciding to skip the wine. Mental strength meets physical toughness The class, which was taught by Johanna Sapakie, was meant to put a group of editors through the exact training regimen that Jennifer Lopez went through as she prepped to play a stripper in Hustlers. Take one look at the movie’s trailer—in which J. Lo, her no-bullshit attitude, and every well-defined muscle in her body can be seen hanging every which way on a pole—and it’s clear that whatever she did to prep was no damn joke. On the day of the event, my sexless black outfit